Friday, December 12, 2014

5 signs your job is like a bad romantic relationship

When it comes to being in a relationship, it's important that you love or like the person for real, otherwise you'll have to put in work on a daily basis to keep your sanity. If you really love/like the person and enjoy their company, then it's a piece of cake because it's something that you enjoy to do and will come naturally, and will also fill you with joy and happiness and blah blah blah.

The same goes for your job. When you enjoy doing something (or someone, hehe), then it's not going to be "work" for you. I define "work" as being something that requires a lot of time, energy and causes a lot of stress, but does not make you happy. The only thing about a bad job that makes you happy is being done for the day; the only thing about a bad relationship that makes you happy is also being done for the day. It's basically just a routine, and you stick with it because you're comfortable. Like those great health benefits they offer, or sex benefits, whatever. Well actually, if the sex is really, really good then it may be worth sticking around.

On the other hand, when your passion becomes your job, you really won't have to work a day in your life, because you will be happy to do what you do. You'll look forward to doing it every single day, because that's love, baby. Sure, there will still be challenges and hard times, but when you love what or who you do, then it's worth it and you're HAPPY to go through it all.

I feel like a lot of people in bad relationships, whether it be romantic or professional, may not even realize they are in one. So, I put together a few warning signs that maybe you're dating a bad job:

1. You're expected to be psychic, all of the time.
Your boss expects you to always know what they expect of you, but they fail to give you any clear direction whatsoever. There is a huge difference between taking initiative and being proactive, and being psychic. If you want to be proactive, you need to at least have SOME sort of idea of what is needed.

2. You're job is clingy. SO clingy
You work hourly, but are expected to stay late and come in early, anything to get the job done, despite the fact that you're not a salary employee and so it will cost them overtime. They don't care. They want you in the office at all times, and basically would have you live there if you could.

3. You're constantly being put down, never praised
And nothing you do is ever good enough, like everrrrr. Your boss or colleagues only see your faults, mistakes, and less than perfect moments. All that good work you do? Yea, that means nothing. All the positive contributions you made? Again, NOTHING.

4. You have to force a smile and the bad mood is permanent
 If you have to give yourself a self-motivating pep talk every morning just to get yourself out of bed and off to work, then yea...that's a problem. It's even worse when not even that pep talk helps, and you find yourself constantly hating life between the hours of 8am-6pm.

5. They only care about themselves, no interest in how you are doing
If you can't remember the last time your boss asked you, "how are you doing?" then it's a problem. It doesn't matter how high your boss' status is; there is no excuse to not check in with their direct reports on a regular basis. A boss who remembers your name, your accomplishments, and genuinely cares how you're doing in your job and if you're happy with it, is a boss worth keeping. All others, not so much.


No job, boyfriend, friend, family member is perfect. Relationships will never be perfect. But that doesn't mean you have to settle for bad treatment. If any of these warning signs have hit you close to home, it might be time to start visiting monster.com.

Have you ever had a job that was like a bad relationship? I wanna know all about it! Tell me in the comments below!

Have a beautiful day <3


Cheers - Vanessa A.

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